Monday, June 23, 2008

Ordering the Protection

During the last week, I've been contacted via phone and my house has been driven by twice by my Ex-The Redneck.

She used to live four houses down because I asked her to go stay with her friend that lived down the road. I never let her come home. She asked. I said no.

Now, when she comes to see him, she is compelled to come down into the cul-de-sac and do a drive by. I suppose she just can't stop herself. Will I be in the yard? Will I finally be friendly?

I should have filed an Order of Protection two years ago. I'm wondering if it's been too long? Will I look silly after two years going into the police station to ask that my ex not stalk me anymore?

21 comments:

tt said...

Personally i think the less attention you show her the best. It's not good to let her see she's capable of getting under your skin. Remember, those who anger you also control you. Think about it. Don't waste your time on anything having to do with her.

Fortune Cookies said...

Oh my! Nip this in the bud, ASAP! Believe me, nothing's worse than a Redneck ex with stalking tendencies. Don't even be worried about looking silly, better to look a bit silly now and stop it than look even sillier later by having to say you let it go on and it escillated to _______ (fill in the blank).

Leighann said...

I don't think it would hurt to at least ASK about an order of protection. Of course since it has been so long, I'm afraid you already know the answer they're going to give you.

If you still feel threatened, then by all means.... act on it.

Dana said...

How 'bout a trained killer in your front yard?? *wink*

Biscuit said...

I like Dana's answer ;)

I'm sorry she can't move on. I can imagine how stressful that must be.

Akelamalu said...

That sounds scary to me, it wouldn't hurt to ask would it, they can only say yay or nay.

Anndi said...

There's no harm in going to them with your concerns. I have an ex who can't quit while he's ahead and I'm about to go medieval on his freckly puny butt. Tomorrow, I'm getting some paperwork together so I can inform the police he's being an ass.

ambergail77 said...

I think that you should at least talk to someone about the order. I once had a crazy ex. He was abusive while we were together and stalked me after the break up. He seriously found my car (a new one that I got after our break up) in a parking lot at MTSU. Yeah-freaked. me. out. I came out of class one afternoon and there he was-leaning against my car. Let Dana move in. She could use a Tennessee vacation. I am sorry you are dealing with this. Those abusive ones can really scare you. And it so hard to get them out of your head. If I even think I see mine, I get all panicky and we have been apart for 10 years now.

Beth said...

I agree with Leighann....you can at least ASK....talk to someone and see what can be done...you never know. and it's way better to be safe than to do nothing at all.

Knight said...

You won't sound silly. Enough is enough. At the same time I sort of agree with tt. I think you should look into what you can do but you might want to think about if it will fuel her fire to do something crazy.

I vote for hiring Dana.

Karen said...

How happy are you that you are done with such a loser!

I have to admit that I am one to do a "drive by" certain houses when I am in a neighborhood. Houses I used to live in or where friends lived - but it was never in a stalker way.

Jay said...

The amount of time since you broke up won't matter and you won't look silly. I say get the order immediately and stop her creepy behavior.

doggybloggy said...

I agree with......beth....and thats my final answer.

Brad said...

I'm with Jay - If you feel the least bit uncomfortable - do it - better safe then sorry. Look out for #1. And if they give you crap at the po-po station tell us here and we'll flood them with complaints.

jGrrl said...

Oh hun, report that if only to get it on record, she sounds loopy and thats not a good thing. I had to report an ex of mine, he was stalking me online and off and he was getting his girlfriend to help him! They even started to watch the girl I was dating for a time *shudders* some folks are just missing something vital...

jGrrl said...

I just read and commented on your "Fashionably Bi" post, what a great and thought provoking read :-)

Southern Sage said...

lol@ redneck!
its tough to get us necks to act right.

Prolly be best to alert the police.

Lu' said...

It is never too late in my opinion. If you have any concern, register it. What could it hurt. I don't understand why, when they are not wanted, people don't just move on ?

Tall Man Molly said...

All seriousness aside....Maybe she heard you sold her lamps.

Just Dave said...

Don't bother. Trying to pry a cop loose from their doughnut long enough to enforce a protection order is like trying to make soup in a sieve. They are generally ignored anyway. How many times have you seen a story in the paper about a murder and it says the victim had a restraining order on the killer? Many, many times.

Charlene said...

RLL~~

i'll lead you my brother~~ he'll tell her that if she don't leave you alone he will throw her in (his) jail~~
it worked on my exboyfriend of 3 months
my younger brother has never taken my side before ~~i was shocked until i found out DAX(dumb ass x) had a warrant for his arrest~~now DAX won't even go to his house~~he's staying in another county with his daughter~~
peace~~love~~and well ya know~~~~BGWD~~~~

Charlene