Wednesday, June 25, 2008

How Gay Are YOU?

Yesterday, I received a comment about one of my old posts. It got me to thinking. How gay are ya'll?

I know how gay I am. Pretty damn gay. About an 8.5, I think.

If I met the right man. With the right mindset. With the right body. On the right day. And I had no female options. I would. And I wouldn't have any problems spending my life with this Right Man. But boy, would he have to be right and he'd have to keep his manly self in perfect form, like no whiskers and be sweet all the damn time, to keep me.

But on most days, I don't even notice men. Their anatomy doesn't interest me. Well Matthew McConaughey's does, but his brain doesn't. Dumb people just kill my libido.

So my question gay are you? On a scale of 1-10, what's your gayness? Would you have sex with the same sex? Have you? Will you again? Feel free to tell stories! I love stories!

P.S. I won't tell a soul what your answers are.


Claudia said...

Hmmmm....I would have to say I am 6.5, but that ratio does fluctuate day to day or drink to drink or man-woman to man-woman. I am right in the middle most days, never really seeing it as a sexual preference but a choice of the day, if that makes sense. I love my husband, he is The Right Man for me, whiskers and all, but women, the right women still manage to make me pant and I have no qualms with my fluctuating gayness, if that is what it is.

BTW, my Father was a cheerleader at Harvard when he was in College. That picture made me snirk.

Dianne said...

to show you how fuzzy I am this morning - I kept looking at the poster and wondering "those 2 girls are gay?"

when I was 20 something a woman I worked with persued me for quite a while. I was uncomfortable but blessedly I was kind - I was young and had lived in Brooklyn all my life so the potential for being an asshat was high. I had no interest in women at all.

As I got older, and definitely the last few years (I'm 52 now), I started to see/feel sexuality as a curve, a spectrum?. I feel very comfortable being attracted to women. I've kissed a few women and I've learned to never say never.

The thing I've been wondering most about lately is why I feel little interest in sex at all. Even with myself LOL

I have to ponder that one :)

Hope I haven't gotten too serious or overshared but the question was a great one and I feel very comfortable here.

Dana said...

Well, you - probably more than anyone - know my story. Had anyone asked my gay quotient prior to the summer between high school and college, I'd have thought they were nuts. I was clearly in denial.

I was 18 the first time I was with a woman, and it really made denial a lot more difficult place to be. From a pleasure standpoint, sex was different with a woman - it felt more natural - less "forced" - but my relationship "role models" were all heterosexual. I had no idea how to pursue a same sex relationship - so I didn't.

Sure, there were other times (several) when I was fortunate enough that it happened again, but it was always part of a three-some, and never a stand alone relationship. Some of these were even long-term "arrangements" where I "put up" with the man involved because I wanted to be with the woman.

25 years later, I'd say I'm in the 7/8 realm of gay-ness - and I'd say that's always been the case.

Karen said...

Hmmmm. Good questions. I also think there is a curve. I find the concept of being with a woman interesting. Not interesting enough that I would peruse that option right now.

The thought of another woman is sometimes a fantasy for me, but I am not sure I could go through with it in reality. In the form of a threesome, I probably would.

Tall Man Molly said...

I'm a three.....I can sometimes picture it...but doing it, I just don't know.

~Deb said...

Interesting questions. I'm a 5. Yep, I call myself a lesbian.


Since I've been in a long-term lesbian relationship, (and I hate labels), I label myself a lesbian.

I have dated men. I have had positive sexual experiences with them. It was mostly physical though. I found it hard to connect with men on an emotional level. I even think the male anatomy is beautiful. Equal to that of a woman's.

So, I guess I have to say a "5". But show me a man (I know there are plenty out there) that can connect with me emotionally and who can carry a conversation about higher evolved topics, instead of blabbering about the game or fixin' up their trucks. I love men, but I haven't found "the right one", as you say.

I did however, find the right girl!


Jay said...

So I guess every guy is trying to figure out what to say here? LOL

I have to say that I'm pretty sure I'm pretty low on the scale. Like maybe a 2? I don't know really.

I love women. And not just the "right" woman either. All shapes, sizes, colors, races, styles, flavors, whatever. LOL

I can't really say that there is any guy that could convince me to play for the other team. Or is the home team? I never can get that right.

But, who knows, right? I mean, I don't want to be all closed-minded and give my self a ZERO.

Lu' said...

Have never and as far as I know, will never. Not even a kiss. I appreciate women for their beauty and what makes us tick. Sexually, girl on girl porn is HOT, but as I said the thought of me in some same sex action doesn't do it for me. So, you tell me, how gay am I.

Fortune Cookies said...

Hmmm...I'm pretty darn gay, I'm gonna have to say 8.5 - 9. I still find Henry Rollins attractive, and have a history with men. I don't typically find men attractive, sexually, but sometimes, it's their brains that does it for me, or their musical or artistic inclination...I'm weird like that. But for real relationship building stuff, the meat and potatoes of a person, it's gotta be a woman. I'm physically attracted to them, I enjoy conversation with them, I just find that my connection is stronger with women. Always has been. Always will be.

Leighann said...

Hmm, this is tough so help me out here....

I've made out with women, heavy petting, no sex.

Would I? Yes, in a heartbeat. Women are beautiful and I am definitely sexually attracted to them.

Would I give up on men completely? No, I like whiskers and c*ck, a lot.

So, how gay am I?

Tequila Mockingbird said...

id say i'm about 40-60 gay-straight.

Brad said...

I'm prety gay. I had male and female lovers in adolecence. I have romantically loved about 5 women in my life - (Lolli from last weekend party pic's being one of them) But after so many years w/ my guy. I'd have to say I'm close to a 9.

Mike said...

Probably about 0.5. I once kissed a guy on a dare, and we were drunk.

Did nothing for me, as do men's bodies etc.

Course, there are lots of women who don't do it for me either.


Talisman said...

I'm going to go with a 8. I was dating a woman (not my first girlfriend) when I met my husband and if he and I ever divorce I likely won't be with another man again. I don't find men attractive from the waist down, but yummy sexy broad shoulders are hot.

Oh and I'd totally do Dana if given the opportunity. Maybe that makes me an 8.5? ;)

namaste said...

i guess i'd say i'm a 5. but if i didn't marry my prince charming, i can't say i'd be in a relationship with a woman. my sister-in-law is gay and i have been witness to all the drama that her search for a good woman can bring. oiy!



Dana said...

Well, if Tali is and 8, and I am a 7/8, does that make us a 16?? I just hope that I am on her list of possibilities should she ever decide to leave that man thing of hers - oh, and I guess I'd have to leave mine too *wink*

Beth said...

wow...I've never really thought about it...I had a few "experiences" when I was young, but that was just kissing and "stuff" with friends, ya know? I think I'm probably about a7-8 to tell the truth. I can look at a woman and appreciate a beautiful woman...but I do like certain parts of men, but then again...I can get that anywhere!!!! ;) I can BUY one of those!!!

ambergail77 said...

I agree with the spectrum concept of gay/straight. I have different days where I feel very much one way or the other, while still finding women to be the most sexy overall. I am married, and while in our relationship I have never done anything more than a little groping heavy make out session with another woman. Prior to our relationship there were several times that I was with women. Nothing really long term, but definitley sex was had. Now, most days I am probably a 7, but I could be swayed by a hot bodied male or female to the extremes of the spectrum.

Hammer said...

That is one of the best posters I've ever seen!

i am the diva said...

That's a loaded question!! lol.

So, it's the Kinsey Scale eh?

1 being least gay and 10 being most gay?? i'd say a solid 8. I just happen to be in love with a dude. :D

but the ladies are oh so sexy.

Akelamalu said...

I love men! I do however appreciate the female form. Could I make love with a woman? I'm not sure, the opportunity has never arisen.

Cap'n Ergo Jinglebollocks said...

Kinsey 4.

Spiky Zora Jones said...

I donlt know if I can measure it...gayness. Sometimes I try to label it but I tell myself...that is so gay.
I love men and I have dated and had my share and more of cock...but I love pussy hard. I love women. I lost my virginity to a girl. I knew way back then, when the leading man kissed his leading lady...I thought. That is how I want to kiss a girl.
I was in love and ready to marry this wonderful man, but I also fell in love with a now girlfriend. I had to make a decision. I made the right one, but if I had not met her...I could have lived a wonderful life with him, too. He made me laugh and god the sex was wonderful too, but there is no one like my girl...sigh, she rocks my life.

I'm rambling, huh?

later babes.

Knight said...

I don't know how to go about picking a number. It would depend on the day I think. I have slept with men and women. I have never considered myself gay because I have not had any long term relationships with a female. I'm obviously in the middle of the scale though. I should also mention that I tend to have the emotional behavior of a guy and I tend to date men who are the opposite. Basically I'm a big mess but I believe there are no rules, no types, just people.

SkylersDad said...

Pretty low on the scale, 1 or a 2 I would guess. I like the female form way too much, and a guys body doesn't do anything for me. The thought of guy on guy action doesn't do anything for me, but I love watching two women make love. They are so gentle, I try and watch and learn.

Ernest de Cugnac said...

I would say 1, but I grew up in homophobic times. A male zoologist made a pass at me when I was 18 and it scared the shit out of me.

Maybe a better test is the fantasy side of sex life. In my fantasies it is always women that figure, and I'm not aware of imposing any censorship.

The most important thing in life is to be with someone you love, whether that's straight or gay.

Diva said...

This part of ya'll is 50*50.

I've had beautiful times with either or.

Big T says he believes that I could fall for man or a woman.

I thank God for lovlies of either gender.

"that girl" said...
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Certain Magician said...

I'd like to go on record as saying I'm a 10! Love love love women. I don't hate men, but I'm not attracted. I have been with women who like cocks and believe me, mine stays hard longer!
What size do you like, what color? I have been with men, but it was giving in, not desire. I have always regretted it later.
BTW I'm a "real live lesbian" virgin. First time here...LOL

"that girl" said...

i posted a comment and then deleted it ... here's the bigger picture

Michael said...

Interesting question... I'd say I'm around a 4. I've played for both teams and would again with the right person. These days, I'm not really on either team though... I mostly coach ;-)

comfortandjoy said...

I am all the way gay.

Women realize me. Under a woman's hand, I am raw and true.

Women find me. In a woman's arms, I am home.

Women inspire me. A woman's grace, the curve and line of her, push me to the edge of poetry.

Women are certain magic.


Anonymous said...

Hmmmm. I don't honestly know. I have a couple of girl crushes, so I guess I could say I am somewhere in the middle. As for a relationship, I doubt I would take it that far. But I surely appreciate the beauty of women. Numbers are just that, so it's hard to pin that down.

Thanks for stopping by my blog today! I've been by a couple of times today but I never could get my comment to post...stupid internet at work.

Sushiboy said...

Depends on how you slice it. I like ballroom dance, cooking, techno (well trance anyway), disco and have a general aversion to woodworking and shop work. But I'm not attracted to men. 1 (or 0) on attraction.

Anonymous said...

I am most definitely a 0. I hate to be the one to break the pattern, but I have simply never been attracted to men or their body parts. Envious of six-pack abs on occasion...but not attracted. That being said, I DO find that with regards to women, I can find something attractive about almost any woman, weight, race, looks notwithstanding. Every woman has SOMETHING beautiful about her. Lots of us men are ugly. Simple fact.


BTW..I'm trying again

Lippy said...

I'm a zero too, never had a girl crush ever. Not even slightly.

I'm not really into anyone's boobs even my own! I like the large scale of men, big tall lanky boys do it for me.

doggybloggy said...

I used to be gay bait when I was younger....what does that count as? I have only been hetero and dont feel any excitement about same sex sex...I have been with some pretty manly women though and I have also been with 'lesbians' (I think they were dabbling)

Matt-Man said...

I don't think I am gay at all as aguy. But it is no secret that I want to have a sex change and become a lesbian.

Now if you'll excuse me, I need to go iron my chinos, and adjust my track lighting. Cheers!!

Anonymous said...

What Matt Said!

I think my gayness is a negative. I like you RLL are not interested in a guys anatomy. Even the guy you named (i don't know who that is but I'm fairly certain his body won't do it for me.

Vixen said...

Hmm....interesting question (and hilarious picture, lol).

I'd say I'm similar to you, 8.5. I have little to no interest in men (but as you said, Mathew McConahottie DOES float my boat, lol). The right man DID come along my way and has taken my heart. But I fell in love with who he is, not bc he is or isn't a man.

And it helps that he doesn't discourage my 'outside' interest in women. ;)

Anonymous said...

I'll get back to you as soon as I get finished watching my lesbian porno...

BostonPobble said...

This is a complex question ~ at least for me. Naked women do nothing for me. They don't turn me on; they don't repulse me. They do...nothing. Yet who can deny the sheer magnificence of Bette Davis, Lauren Bacall, Mariska Hartigay... I just don't want to have sex with any of them. Naked men, on the other hand, well...hmmm...yeah, they're a different story. To the point that my favorite porn is gay male porn. So, that's my answer on the physical aspect of it. Pathetically heterosexual ~ and able to appreciate a good looking woman any day.

And like you, stupidity is the immediate and ultimate turn off!

Raven said...

I think I'm somewhere between a 2 and 3. Enough to be able to appreciate a beautiful woman...but no real desire to do anything with it...but not repelled when a woman hit on me. I just smiled and said thanks, but no thanks.

tt said...

I have no idea what number I'd be. Probably a 1 on the official scale. However... I totally understand how men are attracted to men...I'm attracted to them too. ;)And i understand how women are attracted to women...cuz women are ...what's the word?....well hell, we're just soft and nice and curvy and ....we 'get' women.Makes sense there too.
I'll just leave the lesbian stuff up to my sunshine girl...she does it justice and I'lljust stick to my Lovee.
I just love all people...that's me! :)

Charlene said...

RLL~~thanks for stopping by~~~come back and visit anytime~~
How gay am I???

Considering i have lived with gay people as many years as either one of my husband I'd say damn gay for a straight gal~~~
one of my sayings was "i'm straight not narrow" and "it's hard living in a gay world when you're straight"
i used to tease my new friends~~at some point they would always go "you are straight aren't you" and i would say "you are gay aren't you?"

and to answer the questions yes, yes, yes

stories~~i'll save those for blogging post

~~peace~love~and well ya'll know ~~~BGWD~~~~


Anonymous said...

Here via Akelamalu, and I laughed out loud to see the poster was the local college team. Gads, I can't get away from them. (And I also had a duh moment when I looked at the two women on the rihght and tried to figure out why someone would know they were gay.)

As for me, pretty solidly straight, but who knows in the right circumstnces.

Jess said...

I have to say I am about a 7.326958.

I love me a man with an accent.

I love kissing men.

I don't love man brains nor am I emotionally able to connect with men.

All of my relationships with men were great. They were all good men and I still feel guilt sometimes that I wasn't able to give them my ALL.

With my current relationship (two years with a female) I have really felt like things connected naturally and nothing is held back.

And that is why I give myself a 7.326958. (Damn those men with accents!!!)

Special K said...

Okay, I looked up the Kinsey scale so I would be accurate:

It only goes from zero to six....
I would say I'm a 1.
I've never been in a relationship with a women, I love the penis, but I have been attracted to women - but didn't know what to do about it.

Faerie Mom said...

Oh, what a great question! hmmm.... I have been with 3 women in my life. All 3 were wonderful both as friends and as lovers. I had my first orgasm (with another person!) with a woman. She taught me how to truly appreciate my body and find joy and passion.

But I love men and cock. I am married and love my husband.

But, damn, I love women too.

So.... depends on the man/ woman. Depends ont he day. Depends on my mood. I guesssI would say a 5?

Great blog, btw...

The Mistress of the Dark said...

I keep wondering if its possible to just be asexual as it takes quite a bit for me to be attracted to anyone and then shagging usually leaves me disappointed.

As American as Apple Pie said...

Well, I "experimented" a little when I was a Junior-higher but nothing since then. However, I do fantasize frequently about women and lesbian porn totally does it for me. What does that mean? Maybe a 4?

I can appreciate any good body. I like people who take care of themselves, be it man or woman.

Bacon Lady said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog!

Now, to answer your question...

I'd say I'm about 3ish.

Had some fun in college. Never tried it again. Not that I was presented the chance.

Married my "right guy", but still have a stray thought here and there.

Oh, and I LOVE watching male gay porn. What does that mean? haha

Tomscockwhore said...

Although my comment is late (I just found you), I'm about a 7.5 on the gay scale. Lived the lesbian lifestyle, lived the hetero lifestyle, and currently living with my boyfriend in the swinger lifestyle. Yeeee Hawwww!

Aunt Jackie said...

I never have, but I think I would, and appreciate the hotness of both sexes. However, I am highly attracted to guys and all, but am open-minded and think life is too fucking short, and if the opportunity arose, I would enjoy myself. :)