Thursday, April 30, 2009

Not The Same


Yesterday afternoon, I was upstairs cleaning and I hollered (I really tried to think of a better word, but asked just didn't work) down for my Love to come help me for a few minutes.

Afterwards, I said, "Thank you!" and she said, "Sure."

"Don't you mean you're welcome?"

"It's the same thing."

With that, she was down the stairs.

Now, maybe I'm old fashioned and maybe she's a Yankee, but I don't think it's the "same thing." Although, I may be guilty of a quick, "sure" myself.

I need to take the time to slow down and make sure that I'm practicing what I preach.

27 comments:

i am the diva said...

ah, the art of the THank You. Sadly, gone by the wayside.

SkylersDad said...

We folks of the mountain persuasion tend to just nod and grunt.

Hammer said...

I say "no problem" for most informal things and You're welcome for larger issues.

In Spanish there are two main ways to say You're welcome:

De nada...litterally "Of nothing"
or it was nothing.

Or con mucho gusto: with means with much pleasure or "my pleasure"

I think it all has to do with the formality one feels at the time.

LSL said...

I notice this, too. : ) I'm a yank, and "sure" just doesn't do it for me.

MarkD60 said...

Casual, informal, thinking about something else. Don't take it personal and don't let it bother you!

CheekyMonkey said...

Yankee here... I use "You're welcome". Tis not the same thing.

Akelamalu said...

Sure isn't the same thing as thank you. To me sure is another way of saying yes - yes isn't thankyou.

rage said...

I don't think it's the same thing either. Maybe she could have gotten away with "Don't mention it" if she didn't want to say "You're welcome."

Jess said...

I always say No Problem! But I do try and mix it up a bit!

Christie said...

I am all over my children to do the "please", "thank you" and "you're welcome" thing, but I know I am not all that great at it. I've got the please and thank you down, but I am lacking in the you're welcome department. I am horrible with compliments and don't feel I should be thanked for most of what I do, so I'm a "sure" person. I mean no disrespect by it, I just don't think I deserve the thank you.

Does any of that make sense? Because I confused myself a bit.

Rhea said...

I think if one says 'sure' with the right intonation, it can be a very nice way to say 'You're welcome.' But only if.

Evil Twin's Wife said...

I agree with you. The only two proper responses to "Thank you" are "You're welcome" or "No problem"

Bina said...

I always say "you're welcome" AND "thank you". I have made sure my kids do the same thing. of course, my 6 year old will say, "Welcome!" and she has since she was about two. She knows how to say it correctly, but that's how she chooses to say it.

I also say thank you when it's totally unnecessary. Like for instance, when I buy something I say 'Thank you. Have a nice day". So i'm thinking them for taking my money???

phd in yogurtry said...

My son, a born Texan, says "Sure" and his Yankee momma wants to hear "You're welcome." So I get what you're saying.

Grant said...

I'll bet she drinks Pepsi too, aka damned yankee poison. Get a proper girlfriend, by which I mean Japanese.

vixen kitten said...

Hell, Sweetie. I'd just be tickled as shit she came to help!

I'm a you're welcome or my pleasure kind of girl.

xoxo
~vk~

coffeypot said...

I agree. When I say 'thank you' and they say 'No problem' I tell them I didn't ask if they were had a difficulty. I said 'thank you' and I expect a 'you're welcome 'response. Then they say 'Fuck You' and I feel more at home. Thank you!

we're doomed said...

I think women think too seriously about these topics. I'm just sayin!

Scarlet said...

They're NOT the same (you're welcome is much sweeter), but I'm sure her "sure" was sweet, too. :)

Queen-Size funny bone said...

I think THANK YOU is sincere and SURE is like whatever!

Gina said...

I make my 2 year old say "You're welcome!"

Jeanne said...

In Hindi, you're welcome is "aapka bhi"

Wish I knew something besides that....

Cloudia said...

Cool posts this week!
Aloha

Ashleigh said...

I've thought that very same thing myself this week. I really try to be good at saying thanks instead of sure. It means so much more.

Good post!

Gary Rith Pottery Blog said...

so, Yankees have no manners, is that it?

Dana said...

Nope! Not the same (and this from a Yankee)!

Zed said...

Is it really so important?
Just be glad 1) you have someone willing to help you when you ask for it and 2) she didn't say "Don't ask me again."