I'm helping out one of the neighbors in our business complex this week. Just doing office grunt work. Basically, whatever they need done. And since it was only going to be for a few days, I decided to not wear my lesbian love slave ring. That way, there would be no questions. No awkward tellings.
I prefer people to get to know me before I "come out."
Day 1:
Her: Do you have any kids?
Me: No, but I do have two dogs that are my fur-children.
Her: Are you married?
Me: Nope, not yet!
Her: Do you have a significant other?
The phone rang and off she whisked.
Day 2:
I forgot. I wore my ring. It's habit at this point. I feel naked without it and since nobody at MY office asks any questions...
Her, looking at my ring and whispering because the other girl is on the phone: So, do you have a husband?
Me, whispering: No.
Her: A boyfriend?
Me: No
She's looking puzzled at this point. Long silence.
Her: Oooh, do you have a girlfriend?
"Off and running!" Name that movie!
20 comments:
People are just nosy. You aren't gonna avoid all the questions. ;-)
What is your ring like?
Two dogs? What's the other one. The one in your photo just looks so contented, knowing she/he is loved. Our Georgia looks like that too. Especially when she's on my lap knowing she has me right where she wants me.
LOL I go through almost the same thing. It takes me a very long time to come out. But I wear an engagement ring, I don't wear the wedding band that goes with it. This kind of upsets my wife. (who I refer to in my blog as my g/f...lol who doesnt know I blog ;) ) but, it's complicated when one has to explain why I'm wearing a wedding band set. lol
fried green tomatoes...is that it or is it desperately seeking susan?
Precious! I hope you made a new friend!
Easy for me to say..but NEVER take the ring off. Be proud. Down in California right now, they are fighting for your right to marry.
I been reading Jendi Reiters blog now for a while. She lays it out good for us straight people to understand.
That's right, we're fighting here in California and after reading the daily updates and trying to keep up with the Tweets, I completely understand now why the pro8'ers didn't want this televised! The points why marriage must = man+woman are so lame and weak. Their case is so full of bigotry and hate. Hopefully, the S.C. will be fair this time.
Your story was funny.
Give em one of those "i'm checking you out" looks... LOL!
I'm the type who thinks if someone doesn't like me for whatever reason, they're not worth knowing anyway. (Although your new friend seems very open-minded). Wear your ring! :-)
Who cares what people think. Be yourself! You're amazing.
I wanna see your ring!! :)
It's so odd to me that people are so weird about that stuff in this day and age.
Ok I am not sure it is the lesbian part as it is the love slave stuff! LOL Don't we all wish we had the right person in our life who we want to be a love slave to?
My sister is a married lesbian attorney who wears a ring. I would say on an average she gets "what does your husband do?" about 10 times a week. I would kill to be a fly on the wall of her conservative republican firm when she says "my wife is a manager for Bath and Body", with a smile.
i generally don't start waving rainbow flags when i meet new people...but i don't lie about who i am either. this made for an interesting situation at the friendly neighborhood bar the other night. a REALLY drunk preacher (seriously) who called himself "Rev" invited me to his church, then offered to buy me a drink, then proceeded to hit on me in front of his wife/gf/whatever. long story short, the fact that i'm a lesbian came to light and he called me a freak of nature. umm, yeah buddy, i'm the one with issues.
I also would love to see your ring...
Well at least she finally got it!
I always ask if somebody has a significant other, to give them the option to provide more info if they want, or to just say yes or no.
Some people just don't have a 'gay-dar' and need the facts to hit them in the head.
That would be me. :)
Well hopefully she handled the answer ok. That is sad you have to do that but I do understand. I am learning not to care anymore.
I cannot begin to imagine asking all of those questions. Seem to me the best way to get to know people is to watch them and pay attention. Everyone want immediate gratification these days!
One of my friends at work gets some flack from her friends for basically not announcing who she is. Her response is when people meet they don't say that they are straight, so there is no point in announcing it. She doesn't avoid it, she is just who she is.
I found out after I learned she had a MySpace page. I told her I was going to send her a friend request. She told me before I did not to be shocked at what I saw there. To me it makes no difference. You are who you are and that is good enough for me. Life is too short to be judgmental.
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